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I'm openly bi and frankly, feel a little guilty about it. I have a husband, which confers upon me a certain social respectability, and I have a girlfriend, so I get to have sex with men AND women. I guess I shouldn't look a gift horse yadda yadda, but it just seems too easy and fun and not like the trials and struggles most gay/lesbian couples have to go through for rights and respectability. If we were openly poly (which we are to many of our friends) it would be a different story, and the minute we attempted to "formalize" anything among the three of us, we'd have to deal with all the same legal issues - medical powers of attorney, insurance coverage, sharing property, etc.
I digress.
When I first started having sex with a woman, I did worry that maybe I'd been a lesbian all along and just happened to fall for a man because he was there, he was my best friend, and it was expected. I am attracted to men, and especially to ratbastid, but I'm very powerfully attracted to women as well. I'm happy with my sexuality, and as long as both of my partners feel loved and attended to, I don't see the point in trying to define where I fall on the scale.
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- Anatole France
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