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punch_drunk · 03-25-2007, 07:09 PM

My wife and I have been married for almost three years. In addition to "realizing" that she was bisexual about a year ago after having an online lesbian relationship, she has been extremely disinterested and unwilling sexually- refusing to engage in sexual activity with me for as long as 4 months or longer. She has finally blamed this partly on earlier communication problems we have supposedly reconciled. Additionally and more importantly, she is very stand-offish physically. She does not hug or kiss very often- once or twice daily. Any more in her opinion is excessive and needy. She says she is not a touchy-feely person. This all changed from when we were dating, and her excuse is that we didn't see each other as often then.
I am 36 and she is 33. We have a 22-month daughter.
Is it truly needy to want to spend time next to each other, snuggling, hugging, kissing- more than 1 or 2 single kisses and hugs per day?
What is everyone experiencing out there on average sexually and physically if you're willing to admit it?
I'm very frustrated, lonely, and angry at this point. I married a beautiful woman expecting an exciting romantic sexual loving relationship, and it's turning into a nightmare.

03-25-2007, 07:09 PM	#1 (permalink)
punch_drunk Upright	Am I really needy or is she making excuses? My wife and I have been married for almost three years. In addition to "realizing" that she was bisexual about a year ago after having an online lesbian relationship, she has been extremely disinterested and unwilling sexually- refusing to engage in sexual activity with me for as long as 4 months or longer. She has finally blamed this partly on earlier communication problems we have supposedly reconciled. Additionally and more importantly, she is very stand-offish physically. She does not hug or kiss very often- once or twice daily. Any more in her opinion is excessive and needy. She says she is not a touchy-feely person. This all changed from when we were dating, and her excuse is that we didn't see each other as often then. I am 36 and she is 33. We have a 22-month daughter. Is it truly needy to want to spend time next to each other, snuggling, hugging, kissing- more than 1 or 2 single kisses and hugs per day? What is everyone experiencing out there on average sexually and physically if you're willing to admit it? I'm very frustrated, lonely, and angry at this point. I married a beautiful woman expecting an exciting romantic sexual loving relationship, and it's turning into a nightmare.