skaterpunk

It is a rough time... You did what would be considered honorable-but I don't know if I could bring myself to the same situation. If she is never going to see the computer again, and you promised not to leak them out to the net then I figure there would be no harm in keeping them, provided it will not in cause you to over obsess over her. The memories I have are some of the most important things I posess...

As far as this topic and pics of my ex gf goes, she was a dancer and wanted to be a pinup model. It wasn't really hard to get photos but when we broke up (because of her cheating on me with one of her ex's she was still in love with) I couldn't bear to look at her in that manner any more. So I deleted my personal pictures.
The memories of the friendship we shared still remain, and we will chat from time to time. We are just friends now, and it isn't too bad. I stayed mature about it all. I had my time to be upset and with time it passed. I could never go back to looking at her like that... I just don't want to.


I am still haunted by the one I fell in love with. It was mostly my fault that the breakup occured: young, stupid, noncommitted. I pay for it, I feel, every day.

So I can only hope your situation ended amicably, because if it didn't you will continue to drive yourself crazy until you are able to make your peace with her. In the end, if you are not meant to be together again you will find solace in her finding happiness. It will not be a fixall to the situation, but if you can just see that she is where she is good it will make your days easier.

Until then, you will need to find something to displace your mind. Catching up on old times and going back to those grass roots days where you were happy , before her, can get you over it.

This time is critical, mentally. Some people find getting new hobbies, like working out, martial arts, writing etc to displace that time you used to spend with her is quite therapuetic.

I wish ya the best with it.

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