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Originally Posted by KnifeMissile
I wonder what he was thinking when he took his own life?
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That he couldn't go on, and had no one he could turn to for help.
Many moons ago, I had a buddy commit suicide. His fiance was raped, and back then, it was not standard to do a rape kit. She didn't know to ask for one. When the suspect was arrested, the county attorney declined to prosecute for lack of eyewitness or physical evidence.
She became so despondent about the circumstances, she took one of his guns, went to the scene, and shot herself through the heart.
A few weeks later, he did the same.
She could not deal with the shame of the rape (God knows why, but sex assault victims often blame themselves), and he could not deal with the shame of not being able to save her, and the guilt that he may have provided the instrument of her death.
Of course, she was not to blame for the rape, he could not have prevented it, and he was not to blame for her death. That's just how they saw it.
None of us saw it coming. All of us felt like we should have.
Do not react to this as if it is some sort of rational behavior.
1) You will blame yourselves, and when you do, forgive yourselves, because you are not to blame, here.
2) You will be angry with him, and when you are, forgive him, because he didn't do this to punish or hurt you.
You and your daughter remain in my prayers. Hold her, tell her you love her, and tell her that eventually, she'll be OK.