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I can say with a pretty certain conviction that I am monogamous by nature. I have been married twice and neither of them were sexually fulfilling relationships for me...as a whole. But I never struggled with the impulse or desire to seek fulfillment elsewhere. My reaction to those situations seemed to be for my sexual impulse to diminish.
And now in my current relationship, in which the sexual component is far and away more significant and compelling than my other relationships, even though I only get to see him once or twice a month, I still have no impulse or desire to look elsewhere in the interim between get-togethers. I think I'm just a one-man woman, by nature. Whether this is typical or atypical of human behavior I couldn't say.
And as for the OP...If I were giving advice to someone else about to go into marriages that had the exact same components as mine, I would advise them to wait. Wait and be sure you are marrying for the right reasons. As for myself, I have too much to lose for regret. It's too late to wish I had done things differently. Once you have children those questions become much more complicated.
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