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Originally Posted by ratbastid
And you might be that someone. Check with search first, though, because it's been discussed in the past.
I can't say whether your experiences are typical, Lizra. I'm not part of a "swinging community", so I don't really know anything about that world or lifestyle. What I know is, I live with two amazing women who I love more than anything and who love me more than anything and who love each other more than anything, and it's the most incredible experience and life that I could possibly have ever created for myself and ourselves. And it's not for everyone, and it wouldn't work for everyone who might want it, and I don't recommend trying it. But it's pretty amazing for us.
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Yes, but you didn't start out that way-it was a process with a lot of work, compromise, thought, etc., and will take at least as much to keep it going.
It's a delicate balancing act. Too many look at polyamorous relationships as just a lot of sex, but if there's no real friendships, an ability to be just as platonic as romantic, something will give out.
As SM pointed out, most marriages fail at some point. Perhaps one reason is the thought that 'I don't have to work at this as hard now' starts to take hold.
Complacency, too much comfort, etc. and before too long, boredom. If we go into anything with a thought that we better really enjoy this for as long as we can because it probably won't last, instead of sitting around thinking this is forever, maybe more couples/triples would succeed in the long run.