Speed posting....So I'm thinking "Don't get married till you want to be monogamous."
(instead of swinging)
I did the swinging thing with a 7 year living together partner. His idea initially. And he was a little older than me.
I slowly became so preoccupied with appearance and self esteem issues the whole era was really depressing.
It was not good (for me) to devote so much mental energy to *being sexy enough*. I would have been far more happy if the boyfriend of that era had spent his time and energy being a better lover to me, instead of chasing other skirts while keeping me for the day to day relationship. I had no serious interest in being with the other men....it was just a good way for him to not feel guilty.
When I met my future husband and he striaght up said no way he would ever share me with another man......I felt wonderful! Secure, fabulous, loved.....and it opened us up to pouring all this fantastic energy into our physical relationship. That was just my experience though.....wish I could go back in time and tell that old boyfriend to take a hike though......
