Originally Posted by braisler

Your choice to ignore that comment was probably a good one, but it also speaks directly to the point. Your wife may be feeling a counter-pressure to 'do her part' since you 'thank her very much' when she simply holds up her end of the bargain. Rather than thanking her, you should both expect that the other will do their part. This is not to say that you shouldn't be kind and happy that she is doing her part in the household. Just that overtly thanking her may make her feel like she is only doing this as a favor to you rather than doing it out of pride and respect for herself. Perhaps I am reading too much into it from my own situation.