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Originally Posted by tinfoil
Update!
Mrs. Foil and I chatted a bit last evening about this and she offered up nothing really about being depressed or such, however she wsasn't able to offer any real reason for not helping out around the house.
I came home today to find laundry done, vacuuming of floors & furniture done! After picking my jaw up from the floor, I thanked her very much.
She did ask why her mother and I are always surprised when she does housework. I chose to ignore that one.
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Your choice to ignore that comment was probably a good one, but it also speaks directly to the point. Your wife may be feeling a counter-pressure to 'do her part' since you 'thank her very much' when she simply holds up her end of the bargain. Rather than thanking her, you should both expect that the other will do their part. This is not to say that you shouldn't be kind and happy that she is doing her part in the household. Just that overtly thanking her may make her feel like she is only doing this as a favor to you rather than doing it out of pride and respect for herself. Perhaps I am reading too much into it from my own situation.
Depression is an already stated possibility. I can understand how difficult this is to deal with. If the other party is not willing to recognize the problem as depression, how can you get them to seek help?
Keep us posted.