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Agreed with all the above. Go seek the assistance of a professional marriage and family councilor immediately for both of you. Also, she should see a rape councilor on her own (if she wants, don't force her). Explain, if you haven't already, that what happened to her wasn't her fault. When you are hurt physically, you go to see a doctor; likewise when you are hurt emotionally you sometimes need help healing by a professional psychologist. This strikes me as one of those cases. You might ask if she wants to talk about what happened. Sometimes letting it out can be healing.
If you're going to be mad, you should be mad at the coward that assaulted her. It's really not her fault for not disclosing this to you as she was clearly traumatized by the event. This type of trauma can last a lifetime for people, so rushing it won't really help. I'm sad that you have to be in this situation, but now is a good chance for you to shine as the perfect husband. Be her rock.
I really hope for the best for both of you.
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