Jinn

She wants the buffet;

She doesn't want to have to pick between the chicken or the steak, as she'd rather have both on her plate.

That's my take. I know the power of attraction is strong, but I wouldn't want to be with someone who couldn't make a damned decision and stick with it.

Also thought to mention that you might be approaching the problem the wrong way. You don't have a problem with the ex-boyfriend. He has no obligation to you or her to stop his behavior, as it's clearly not harassment.

Your "girlfriend," however, has entered in an agreement with you (by nature of being in a relationship with you) to be faithful. As such, she's the one you have the issue with, not him.

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