I was bored one night, and half heartedly told friend I'd do just about anything. He took that and ran, lol. We thought it was amateurs night at one of the clubs, so we chose that one, and my stipulation was his idea, he pays.
We got inside, and he told me that I was picking out the woman i wanted for my lapdance. We watched 4-5 before I found one whose style I enjoyed, and who was a lot of fun to interact with. When she came over, she asked if I had ever had a dance before. I told her no, but that I was here to have some fun. My friend was looking on, and I told the dancer to do what she wanted, but just make my friend jealous
I am not bi, so I didn't get turned on in that way. But I had a great time - she was getting into it, and I took cues from her - she had fun showing off her moves, and I enjoyed watching my friend squirm, hehe.
Other than being a semi expensive night between tips, cover, and in house drinks, I don't have a negative connotation at all. The girls who were comfortable had fun - those who were not were very easy to pick out.
I honestly think you can go to a strip club, have a good time, and still be 100% respectful of their space. The girls are the ones choosing to be there, and the ones who last are the ones who know how to protect their interests, and acutally enjoy what they do.
Confidence really does go so far.