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Originally Posted by smooth
"coming at me" in that every response starts with "you didn't read my posts, you don't understand what I'm saying, you don't get it"
she's not doing that to anyone else, and that implies to me that she's feeling support from those responses and not mine...which should answer your second question.
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Oh, right. Somehow, this had slipped my mind. I accuse people of not reading posts all the time (mostly because it's really obviously that they hadn't) and I must admit that it's somewhat beligerent...
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and abaya, I can only guess that your friends probably think that you are responsible, but why would they say it like I did? of course they think he's an asshole. they are your friends and support, I'm just an anonymous poster.
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This is mostly a personal point but I prefer to think that friends don't support you by telling you what you want to hear. Friends support you by telling you the truth. Who needs comfort from a pack of lies?
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the reason I kept bringing up that point is that you still haven't answered my question...what was he supposed to do differently? what makes him an asshole?
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Not picking her up off the street in the hopes of gettng laid?
Admittedly, I didn't realize that he had literally done this, either, but apparently he had...
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EDIT: to clarify, I didn't see any "harm" done to you, from your description other than having lost your virginity. But he didn't know that until afterward. You are placing more value on the sex that was conducted purely by the fact that it was your first time. That decision is yours to make, he didn't violate your right to keep your virginity. although it certainly comes across like he did. at worst, he was having sex with a drunk girl, and that happens all the time.
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While she certainly place a lot of value on the virginity, it wasn't her only value. Why did she get tested for STDs afterwards? Because she had unprotected sex with a perfect stranger who, literally, picked her off the street. How many other girls might he have picked up off the street? Safe sex is as much his responsibility as hers...
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I don't read journals. I keep the personas of who I interact with entirely within the context of each thread I come across. I was responding to you in relation to what Halx was bringing up.
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I do the same thing.
By the way, you haven't really put anything in relation to the original post. The original post was about withdrawing sex during the act. This whole abaya sub-thread was just an interesting diversion to a vaguely related but very interesting topic...