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Originally Posted by abaya
Granted, the guy himself remembered more of the night than I did (from what he said), and thus could have made up the entire story about me giving consent... but who would be able to decide that? Not me. I'm capable of saying and/or doing just about anything when I'm drunk, and that's a known fact about me. I go crazy. But again... what kind of rapist provides a real name, address, phone number, and e-mail to an otherwise anonymous woman whom he could have simply picked up, fucked, and left for dead/passed out at any time?
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This was my point, earlier. He says he was drunk but managed to do quite a bit and remember it all. How drunk was, he, really?
A rapist who knows you have no evidence against him can and will do anything he likes. I don't think you can read too much into this friendly demeaner. I don't think the typical date rapist would leave anyone for dead, either, but I don't consider it any less rape...
While it's entirely possible that he made up the whole story, because there are no witnesses and any other evidence, I'm willing to give him the benefit of the doubt which is why I haven't accused him of lying.
If I were to judge from personal experience (which most people tell me is unreasonable), I'd say that there is no amount of alcohol that can rob you of your reason and responsiblity. Most people would disagree with me so I can only assume they're affected in ways I'm not. I've also never had a hang-over so perhaps that says something...
Here's an intereseting defense. If I'm too drunk to know what I'm doing, am I responsible for drinking and driving? I'm too drunk to know that drinking and driving is wrong so how can I be guilty?
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Basically, the whole thing was just surreal as hell (literally), and I have no real conclusions about any of it. I don't know who to blame. I get angry at myself, at the guy, at the ride-along acquaintances who didn't give a shit about any of it. More than anything, the whole thing makes me pretty sad, though there are a few positive things that I found from the whole situation. But that's not what this thread is about.
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Well, if he was as drunk as you were then I suppose you can only blame yourself for getting yourself that drunk...