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Old 02-07-2007, 02:45 PM   #27 (permalink)
The_Jazz
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The scenario that you're describing happened to a good friend of mine in college about 15 years ago. One night we were all out partying and he (a sophomore) hooked up with a girl (a junior) that had had the hots for him for several weeks. They were both really hammered when they left the bar and went back to her place. Sex ensued. The next day, she decided that she never intended to have sex with him and only consented because she was so drunk.

This became a huge arguement on campus, as you can probably imagine. He was basically condemned without any sort of trial since the police refused to prosecute once they got his version of the story (which was that he regretted it and never had any intention of sleeping with her). It went before the student judicial committee eventually, and they claimed assault charges against each other. It was one of the biggest wastes of time I've ever seen.

That said, I think the judicial system worked pretty well in this case, although the student society failed pretty miserably. She never objected during intercourse and only expressed doubts afterwards. He was an asshole and didn't talk to her after the fact which was just fuel for the fire. However, the local prosecutor was ready to press charges until he interviewed some of us that were with the two at the bar beforehand and learned that my friend really wasn't the aggressor in the situation.

That example aside, I think that anytime you're having sex with someone for the first time, you need to be thinking about more than just yourself. If you (as the man) have pressured her into sex, you need to be ready if she objects. If she does, and you go ahead and finish, you're a rapist in my mind. Let's not forget that this isn't happening in a vacuum and that there are circumstances that are going to lead up to any rape accusations. Those circumstances are what will or will not give credibility to the charges.
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