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Originally Posted by Sultana
I kinda agree with most of the previous post, but I have to point out that I don't think it's an overly-lofty goal to expect people to not be mean, unkind, etc.
I do think it's good that people realize that you don't truely get to *know* folks thought this filter of an internet forum. You think you do, but you don't. It's like those first Big Brother reality shows in a way. There's types of editing and presentation with different motivations that we don't/can't know about. Like television programs, the internet is a very real filter, and folks need to keep that in mind all the time. What all folks present on TFP is a persona, and the degree to which it reflects how an individual would match still subjective interpretation of the more immediate personal presentation of a "real life" person varies wildly--and for the most part, we'll never have that opportunity to know.
Even how people perceive and present themselves without intent to impress or mislead can be very different from how I end up seeing them.
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People don't just become mean.
What I think has happened is that people went over wanting to have fun, shake things up a bit.... and did. But, what people didn't expect was that to some, being mean, namecalling, etc was their way of shaking things up and I don't think they truly meant any of it at first.
Then someone who saw a way of "getting power over others", who saw a way of getting approval from the mob mentality, effectively took control and the attacks became more personal, more angry, more bitter and "evil". Quite an ingenious plan really.
Problem is, once you drive away those the mob "doesn't feel belongs" you are still left with the originator's anger, bitterness and hatred..... and that person is smart enough to see that and is such a good manipulator that he/she will start feeding the mob to themselves..... so that in the end the only one left is the originator.... and they don't even see it as their fault, it is everyone else's because everyone else had the problem.
But what do I know.... I sit in a corner play tiddly winks, observe what is going on and ramble some psychobable that may or may not have merit to it.