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Originally Posted by Halx
I'm finding it interesting how people react. "I've lost respect for _______." To me, that's taking yourself too seriously. Losing respect for someone because they let loose in some fashion is as fake as it gets. In my head, my little world, we're all the same. We have pains, resentments, annoyances, peeves and prejudices. If you let them come to the surface, its no different than if you keep them inside; you still have them. Judging people on such a scale is pretentious and simply not *real* - real in the artistic sense.. you know, keepin' it real.
Face it, people, the world is dirty. The TFP just cleans it up a little, but it doesn't change the people participating in it.
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I don't think it is so much "respect" as it is what you have come to expect from a certain person. It is easy to only see what the other wants revealed on the net. (In RL people have tells you can pick up personality "flaws" a lot more easily.)
So when you see a person you always expect to act a certain way, act a different way, and the expectations you had for that person are let down, it is easy to say "I've lost respect for......".
In doing so though, you may hurt the people you named's feelings, causing them to feel you are attacking them and thus they rear back and attack.... then the freefall starts.
And when the dust clears, the only 2 things that become truly certain is .... everyone has a darkside that someone else isn't going to like and that you've ruined friendships over false perceptions and lofty ideals the other could never have achieved.
As my sig on the other sight says (the opening sentences fronm the Great Gatsby) it is very true and they are words to live by.
In my younger and more vulnerable years my father gave me some advice that I've been turning over in my mind ever since.
'Whenever you feel like criticizing anyone,' he told me, just remember that all the people in this world haven't had the advantages that you've had.'