A small, soft silicone dildo is much nicer than the Aneros, I think. I haven't used the Aneros myself (though I did get it for my husband, as he said earlier), but it's definitely hard plastic and not very giving. The silicone dildos that came with our
Bend Over Boyfriend kit were just the right size for experimenting, and DAMN do they hit the spot. Believe me, guys... coming from a woman who's seen it happen, you WANT to try and get that p-spot to activate.
Here is a silicone dildo from Babeland that is perfect for the p-spot (we haven't tried it, but it looks fun):
http://www.babeland.com/page/TIB/PRO...-toys/TR348090
Also, for beginners (both men and women):
http://www.babeland.com/page/TIB/PRO...imers/TG348060