abaya

I think this is an important distinction, and I thank you for making it (and for starting this thread). I don't know if we can be as ambitious as to expect people (including myself) to confess "most" kinkiest thing done... but how about just ANY "kinky" thing (by your own judgement)?

There's no measurement of kinkiness here, folks. What have you been exploring in your own sex life, what kind of boundaries are you pushing, how are you evolving by your standards? Whatever you feel comfortable discussing (including whether or not your partner is comfortable with you bringing it up; a consideration for myself).

For me, right now I feel okay talking more about the restraints. Since we don't have bedposts, we got under-the-bed ones (they attach under the mattress). I enjoy being tied in the spread-eagle position, and having a blindfold on while my husband surprises me.

My husband also likes being tied up with the restraints (they have soft, velcro cuffs, which are easier to deal with than metal cuffs), and we have a leather-covered paddle that we smack each other with, mostly on the bare ass. I am learning to smack him in ways that he enjoys, though it's hard for me to feel okay doing it, just yet. That whole "nice girl" thing is hard to overcome, even though I am extremely aggressive in non-bedroom activities.

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