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I'm in the same boat, though its something I've been working on for years. It still affects me greatly to point where I just dont try some things. However, I've stuck myself in a place where you basicly have to speak up or you'll be ignored; New York City. Its been a crash course of social anxiety guerilla therapy, and many times it seems to be getting the better of me. Still, I set up social meetings and I seek out situations where I have the confidence of the people I am with and its helped me progress. I'd say I'm about 20% better than I was before.
That may not sound like a lot, but I have a goal... a very lofty goal... and 20% is a lot comparatively.
I said the same to myself.. about how a girlfriend would give me all the confidence in the world. Well, I'm engaged and it only helps a little. Really, the only thing that helps me is my own image of myself. When I know I look good, in and out of my clothes, I can get a lot accomplished that I previously have had trouble with. I know it sounds a little shallow, but so is our concern.
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