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Originally Posted by hagatha
I wanted to post this here in order to get feedback from both genders.
I've been thinking about dating and after an informal survey, was wondering if in this post-feminist world the art of romance is dead.
I have talked to woman who are dating older men, that is men in their late 50's and up, and there is a decided difference in their approach to relationships. There's candlelight, spontaneous romantic gestures (coming over with all the fixings for a romantic dinner) and thoughtful gifts for no reason.
For my other friends dating men under 45, its like everything is 50/50 and they bemoan not feeling special. The feeling that they are being taken for granted happens rapidly once they've had sex.
In this age of accessible birth control and the expectation of premarital sex, has the idea of courting a woman gone out the window? Has the quest for equality resulted in women no longer being seen as worthy of real effort by men raised in a post-feminist society?
Just wondering.
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In short.....No.
Romance is far from dead, but the format has changed in practice. Was a time when the Male took upon himself the bulk of the courting ritual, and put in the effort required to win over the female of his attention. This was primarily because women were seen as a commodity, and an asset to the man in the long term happiness of life. Women were prized, in a way, and treated accordingly. Some men still feel this way, and continue to place women on the pedestal.
Times have begun to change, and women are becoming the hunter, rather than the hunted. Men now know they are in demand as well, particularly those considered a great "catch", and because of this can expect the woman to be somewhat more involved in the courtship process. Women are not alone in the need to feel valued, and men have begun to let them know they have needs beyond a wet willy. What some may see as an end to romance others will see as the natural expression of what women have been asking of men for centuries....expressing feelings.
Truth be told, those men truly worthy of your time, know they are. This might place you in a situation where you actually have to
work for the relationship to solidify....welcome to the world men have lived in forever, enjoy the view.
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Originally Posted by hagatha
Because I'm pretty fucking special, that's why.
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That is not for you to decide.....anymore.