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I'd have to agree with Sultana on the subject here... having gone through my own ups and downs with "bad weather" friends lately and deciding to weed them out.
I know you love your friend, but you have to realize that what he's doing isn't nice even if it's unintentional. You should talk to him about it and if things progress it should be pretty clear what you do with yourself. As the youngest of four and the only girl, I maintain close relationships with my two next younger brothers and the youngest dumps shit on me all the time. I'm his "bad weather", which isn't fair. I've stopped relying on him for anything because I know when it comes between me and his g/f that she's going to win.
Thems the breaks honey, sometimes you have to let friends drift. If you really care about this guy the way you say you do then you should let him drift and maybe someday he'll come back. Fighting it won't help you do anything but hurt yourself and drive him away. Friendships are like waves sometimes and other times you get stuck in low tides. You can ride the waves as they come which really sucks. Or you can walk the beach and try to find someone who will make time for you despite their relationship status.
It's a hard balance but real friends find a way to strike it. You're at an age where you don't hang out with the same person night after night (I hope), and your friends should still be able to make time to be with you sometimes. However, if you haven't reached the point where you're hanging out with different people and doing different things every night maybe it's time to find some other things to do. The hardest part of growing up is branching out and that's something I've learned in the past couple years.
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