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At my last job, there was a girl that was 15 (turned 16 while i worked there) that would flirt with basically everyone there. Other than herself, nobody there was under 18. I could definitely see the maturity levels and personal morals of my various coworkers in the way they reacted to her teenage flirting. Some would treat her strictly in a platonic way, or discourage her behavior, others would be more comfortable with it and treat her like a little sister or similar to it with no real interest, and i would see a few take it seriously and i have no doubt would screw her if given the opportunity (which they were also looking for).
I guess i found it more disturbing from an experience standpoint rather than just an age thing. There were 20, 21 year old guys hitting on this 15 year old for no other reason than to try to fuck her, and they knew exactly what they were doing. By the time you're past your teens, i believe you have had enough time to mature into an adult, even if you still haven't figured everything out completely. As an adult, You have a responsibility to be a role model, a mentor, a teacher to these younger kids. Becoming thier partner or lover implies a certain amount of abuse of that responsibility. That person is taking advantage of thier experience and physical/emotional development to... coerce that younger person into a relationship they may not be physically or emotionally prepared for. A 15 year old girl is still a CHILD. She has not finished developing physically, and i'm not talking secondary sexual characteristics. Her brain is still developing and maturing and in a very real way a 15 year old that has had intercourse is still very naive and confused about the world and how it should function. I think it's shameful for someone more mature and experienced to take advantage simply because they can.
Laws serve as a framework and a moral guideline that establish the rules and regulations society has agreed on as a whole... sometimes those laws are outdated or do not accurately represent true societal values but are still enforced (or lack enforcement). While here in alberta it is technically legal for a 30 year old to have a consentual relationship with a 14 year old, i do not think there would be many people who would feel it is appropriate or even sane to do so.
I guess i've just been trying to explain my own moral standpoint on this issue.... not sure if it's the most popular opinion since i think a 20 year old dating a 16 year old is immoral on the part of the 20 year old, and i've known a few people who have done so.
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