surferlove007

I can relate to this in a way.
Well I was friends with this girl in my dorm who introduced me to JS when we were all hanging out at the beginning of the semester. We'd all chill in a group like going to the movies etc. Well she basically told each of us upfront not to be interested in the other...obviously propelling us more toward eachother. Well as soon as he and I are together she hates my guts. I did the right damn thing though, I told her in person that he and I were together yes I did wait a little while because I wasn't sure it would take right off the bat and would feel stupid saying so if it didn't work out...well it did and I said so damnit, I did the right thing. Yes if you can't tell...there is still quite a bit of animosity toward this girl. She says its my fault that the group dynamic has changed and therefore I'm an evil person who must not exist on this planet. I honestly think she has no credible reason to hate me. I've been told that its possible she hates me because I'm involved with one of her good friends...brewing jealousy but still why would she be so unhappy about him dating someone new...I dunno. You'd think she'd be happy for us enjoying each other...

Maybe it is my fault that she and him don't hang out as much as they did before I was there...but they still do talk and hang out. I think it depends on the guy...if he is someone who spends every waking hour with their special person then yea the priorities will most likely shift for time being.
JS and I spend alot of time together but I know he spends time with her too.
To be honest it pisses me off that shes such a "very not nice" person to me with no credible explanation for it other than to just be mean and hurtful. I honestly have tried my best to get along with her, but nothing helps. I even told her when her fly was down...I could of just let it go but no I did the right thing, and does it matter...no. She's lucky my mother taught me more manners than hers...I keep alot of this bottled up inside because I don't like talking about it to people at school as it would be spreading rumors and nasty comments about others, which she has done to me since I started dating JS...but I'm above it. I don't believe my presence has changed their relationship too much, but her hate toward me does make me mad.

But what can I do without starting world war 3? Another thing I decided was that I would not put JS in the middle of our feud (She and I's). However I do notice when we hangout in a group setting she's completely rude to me and I am not going to put up with it this semester...if she slams the door in my face one more time I just might go off on her. I was so distraught over this girl I brokedown in the car and just bawled over it because she made hanging out with everyone awkward and uncomfortable for me, not to mention completely excluded and unwanted. I'm not afraid of her because I know I could handle myself. I believe that girl friends of guys have no right to be rude to the girls they're involved with. Obviously their friend is happy with this girl, why can they not respect that and not treat her poorly because she found a spot in his life. We've all hung out together and when she and I are in the same room it just doesn't work. I told JS I'd be civil toward her and in my opinion I have, I see her in the hall and I smile and say hi. She just ignores me or makes a face. I believe I am as civil as one could be in this situation. She has made it to the point that we all pretty much don't hang out in a large group anymore, atleast if shes there I'm not invited usually. Which does hurt my feelings a good bit. Why are girl pals so opposed to hanging out with their guy friend and the girl they're involved with.
So what if you're jealous, you need to understand that time priorities among people change when they meet and become involved with others. Sure it probably hurts that your friendship is in a lull, but everything changes, usually friendships will always be there if they're the real deal. It most likely won't last forever, him being with her... but when he's happy just let him be, if he's really you're friend he'll come around and give you time. Or just let him know, say hey I miss you, you're a good friend to me and I feel like you've been absent.
Just a different perspective from a girl who is hated by her guys girl pals...
We notice this stuff too. We're not oblivious in the least. But if you were involved with someone and they spent almost 75% of their spare time with their girl pals...how would you feel? Personally, I'm fine with time on my own but I do like my individual time with JS. I don't want to spend 100% of everyday together, but I do feel the right to a chunk of his time due to our relationship.

Hope this helps.