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Originally Posted by ghoastgirl1
Point: You've lived in the same house for your entire life as have many of those kids,it is their safety zone but...you know you want a radical change in your life, showing you have some brains and desperately want to broaden your horizons.
In time I believe you will achieve your goal.
Sorry this was so long!
Goodluck hun!  |
No, my dad was military. Being military made it very difficult for me to make friends past 5th or 6th grade because that is when cliques start to form, and when you move to a new place, its difficult to penetrate.
I spent most of my teen years in a large city about 3 hours from here. My dad retired and decided he wanted to live in a rural area so we moved here. This is the reason I don't have high school friends to cling to as does everybody else.
Most people who go to a real college don't have this problem because everybody is mixed up and from different high schools in different towns maybe even in different states. At my school its not that way. There's virtually nobody from outside of the local high schools. As I have said, there is no college identity at my college, everybody identifies with their high school and will pretty much ONLY associate with people they graduated with.
Not only that, the people who attend my college are generally the low-lifes of the local high schools, who are too poor or too stupid to get into a good school. The more I think about it, the more I realize the mistake I made and how there is not much hope for this to get any better without me transferring.
Question is, think transferring is a justifiable option when I am on a scholarship with only a year left before graduation? What is getting me down is that I feel like if I can't make friends in college, I will never be able to.
I actually did see psychologists during my senior year of high school because of this exact same problem. They basically did nothing but tell me college was a whole different ball game and that I would be able to find people who would accept me for who I am and would be sure to find friends. People on websites, forums, etc seemed to say the same thing.
After all the hope I had for this time of my life that has been completely shattered, its hard to just say "it will be better in the future." Thats what everybody told me about college and look what happened. I don't want to go through the rest of my life completely alone!