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Thank you host: you've accurately paraphrased my problem and you're right - I should weigh up the pros and cons of him as a person, rather than focus on his gender. Sometimes, I feel like I'm slowly deserting the principles I've always upheld. I am disappointed with myself for even having these feelings, though ignoring them, at this stage, would not be a good idea.
I hope in all earnest that I'm accepting of his sexuality and I'd have similar feelings concerning every male lodger who states they are a loner...He certainly appears to debunk the common stereotype that gay men have an abundance of female friends. He has a boyfriend, who lives in a nearby city, and has asked if he could stay over on occasion. I am agreeable, providing his boyfriend is of good character.
I checked out the references he gave me and they back up my first impressions of him. Provided his referees are being honest, and I sense that they are, he would make an exemplary lodger. Apart from his apparent lack of social 'aspects', I would be blatantly discriminating against the chap for not taking him on. His viewpoint, similar to my own, is that society does not 'embrace' him too much, so I'd feel particulary poor for treating him that way. After all, him providing me with light entertainment, on top of everything else, does not form part of the contract.
It took my previous lodgers a little while to relax around me, so perhaps he will become more exuberant as time goes by. If not, maybe it will give me the kick to find more interaction away from home. Two near recluses in the same household will not be good for any of us. He doesn't finish his degree until July 2008 and then might do a post-grad course, so he might be my housemate for a while. Hopefully, we will welcome the stability.
Should I share any of my concerns with him, in the hope that he somehow reassures me, or should I keep them to myself?
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