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Originally Posted by beedubaya
Thanks for the replies so far.
That is one of the roots of my problems...I go to a local school with mostly local students who tend to cling to their high school cliques. Most of them aren't real open to making new friends, they still have everybody they grew up with so they don't see a point. Of course its easier when everybody is mixed up and everybody has to make new friends.
I realize transferring schools would probably be my best option short term. However, I would have to fight my parents every step of the way to get there. My parents are very closed minded and only see long term. They get mad when I even bring up moving out. My parents are of the extremely over-protective variety.
How do I tell my parents how I really feel about this and get them to see my side? Last time I tried to talk to them about merely taking out a loan and moving on-campus, they flipped out on me and went on and on about how on-campus life would be so much worse and I was insane for considering it.
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I've been through that before...I assume that most of the kids who attend your college have never moved before...grew up in the same house, same town their entire lives etc.
I learned how hard it is to penetrate cliques in the 8th grade, we were moving to TX at the end of 8th grade, beforehand I had attended a private Lutheran Christian School of around 200 children grades preschool - 8th.
Well it was easier and cheaper for me to go to public school the year we were packing up to move so there I went. Fortunately I made friends quickly since in 8th grade being the "new" girl gets you more props than in high school, as I would cometo learn the harsh reality a year later in a brand new town. Also my neighborhood best friend helped my social life tremendously, also being in the advanced classes too.
Moving to a new state really changes your outlook on life, more than anything I believe. It completely broadened my horizons on life and helped me realize I didn't want to live in one town my entire life like nearly all my friends from middle school are doing now.
Ok...heres the point. Once you move somewhere new, its a clean slate.
It is up to you to make the best of what you have to work with.
If you can finish out school and land a job somewhere new then you will be fresh, attempt to move somewhere 150% different from where you've been.
Your scope on life will be thrown into a whirlwind of epiphanys and you'll understand how much there really is out there.
Moving to TX from GA was the best thing that happened to me.
At the time I hated it due to being right before high school...talk about fun.
However now I know its opened my eyes to the world and whats at my fingertips.
ok enough of me talking.
Point: You've lived in the same house for your entire life as have many of those kids,it is their safety zone but...you know you want a radical change in your life, showing you have some brains and desperately want to broaden your horizons.
In time I believe you will achieve your goal.
Sorry this was so long!
Goodluck hun!
