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Originally Posted by dalnet22
Yeah, I definitely need to solidify my beliefs and appreciation for self. A half hour ago, I struggled to get myself out of the house to run errands because I was worried my hair looked weird. When I am comfortable with myself, I am more confident than when I am not.
I mean, if I don't look the way I want to look, how can I walk around confidently? Should I train myself to not care about my looks, or should I try and look the way I want? I almost feel like I can't approach someone happily or confidently if I know I don't look the way I want.
But, then I see a friend from across the country who can walk around with beat up clothes and hair like one of those cavemen on the Geico commercials. Seriously, he looks just like them, yet he is fine with himself. It bothers me that he can live normally looking like that, and I can't live normally looking even half that odd.
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Yea, I would say you need to calm down a bit...and invest in a hat.
But seriously, people don't notice all that you think they do. I used to have to have everything perfect before I left the house. What a waste of energy that was. The other day, I went out without brushing my hair and with no make-up. No one even noticed...in fact one of my friends asked what I do to make my hair look so good.
You need to realize that what might look huge to you is small to others. Think about teenage years and pimples. My step-daughter thinks that her pimples are the size of quarters and she walks around with her hand covering it. We notice her hand, but not the pimple. The pimple is nearly non-existant.
I'm not sure if you are a victim of the media, but those people aren't real. You can never be them no matter how much you try unless you invent an air-brush for real people. Or maybe you're comparing yourself to others on the street. I guarantee you they don't think they look as great as you think they do. The only difference is that they don't really care so they look that much better.
So stop stressing, relax, and embrace yourself. Beauty comes from the inside and from the confidence you exude.