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Originally Posted by mixedsubstance
For the past couple of months, my 1st grader has been misbehaving and lying about it at school. Mainly it's been hitting other kids, but yesterday he and another boy trashed the bathroom. The other boy instigated it, but my son denied it and blamed other kids....until the other boy confessed, then my son admitted very nonchalantly. It took the teacher all day to get them to tell the truth. He has been having the tendancy to lie and deny his mistakes and wrongdoings at school. Sometimes he'll do it at home, but being his mom I can see right through him and he knows it.
I am going to sit down and talk with him tonight- I want to find out what is bothering him, obviously it's stemming from some sort of thought or feeling he has. I also need to take a disciplinary action, but don't know if taking away tv & video games is the best or only solution. I also thought about having him write sentences tonight either saying he will not lie and to respect other people's property or on why he shouldn't.
Just wondering your thoughts and insights on this, maybe you all might have some great tips and advice. Thanks in advance.
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Look, in all honesty, your kid is six years old, what were you expecting?
Think about it, didn't you do the same when you were six? I know I did, and to be honest, almost everyone of my school did. Boys will be boys, except those who do nothing, no kid wants to be friends with those ones. If you are worried about his future, from my example and the ones with whom I've kept contact with, no one turned a criminal, no drugs, no drunkards, just regular hard working people. (Actually, much more hard working than those friendless I've said above.)
Just take it naturally, because it is natural. Don't take hard punishments on him, just make him see that whatever he trashes, he has to repair, that he is the one to hold responsible for his actions. In your case, the best would be making him repair the bathroom. Of course that takes time, but it works, and you are raising a sane and responsible person. Not some bitter kid like those we are used to see on tv with all that "Ohh I'm so depressed" crap.
I have a sister that is exactly the same age, and that has worked damn fine.
Hope this have helped a bit.
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Originally Posted by willravel
Frankly, I don't like the idea of having much media time a day for children. I know of other parents who allow Nintendo, Sony and the Cartoon Network become parents for 6, 7, 8 hours a day. Those people are truely neglectful. I don't think it's healthy to have that much exposure to an alternate reality every day for a mind that's still working to understand the way the world works. We're going to have a whole generation that thinks the Earth's greatest threat is the Covenant, and the only way to stop them is to get a hold of Cortana and discover the true meaning of Halo.
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Kudos to you, really. It is not healthy at all as you say, children are supposed to run, laugh, interact with other children, learn the basics of human interaction and body development. As Hippocrates said, "that which is used develops, and that which is not used wastes away".
Of course if you live in a big city it might be kind of dangerous to let your children outside...