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I am smart, and I have intellectual and academic interests.
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That's what you have to focus on then. You have to use what you know you have to get to where you want to be. I know it's hard, but maybe in the absence of a social life right not, you should focus on your studies so you can get a scholarship to a good graduate school, and that will be your way out. (I was a good, but not exceptionally great student, and I got a graduate assistantship to a good university. They paid my way, including books and fees). So if you're smart and a good student - it could happen for you. Tell yourself you'll do whatever you have to do right now knowing it won't be forever.
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My parents are extremely poor also, so going way off to school wasn't an option at the time, since I was 18 and they were totally against taking out loans. I wish I would have been more educated on the subject so I could have made my case that going way off was necessary.
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That makes it hard. Your guidance counselor should have helped you with that stuff.
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That summer job elsewhere option sounds interesting. I'll look into that and it will also be a way to see if the problem really is the area that I live in.
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If it doesn't work out, you can always leave. It's worth a try.
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As far as being a good friend for others, thats what I always do, but people don't like it. I generally have a problem with being "too" loyal to my friends, which maybe makes them uncomfortable and they end the friendship. I'm not sure what causes this or what people want in a friend. It seems like most people, especially guys, don't want a true, caring friend. They want drinking buddies or sports buddies or whatever.
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I'm a female, so I don't really know what guys want or don't want in a male friend. How about female friends? They usually like caring and loyal.
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I also am very awkward and am not comfortable in the areas that are typical of most male friendships, such as pseudo-fighting, or pseudo-sexual activities. When those things come up, I just don't know what to do, and people think I have something wrong with me.
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Again, I don't know about male bonding -but as far as I can see-male friendships
are really different than female friendships or male/female friendships, so I can understand what you're saying, but I'm sorry I can't comment anymore than that. But again, if you can find anyone, male or female, who seems to be in the same spot you're in with similar interests - they'd probably be grateful for some company or a friend.
Check out Yellowstone or Yosimite. If you like the outdoors, you'll meet loads of people who have similar interests and most people go there on their own- not in ready made cliques - so they're open and eager to making new friends.
Good luck.