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Originally Posted by soma
Is getting married and having kids worth it? On one hand, it seems like the most fulfilling thing one can do with one's life. On the other hand, it seems like a huge amount of responsibility and trouble people jump into because it's just what people are supposed to do.
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Wow that's quite a big contradiction there!
First it's "the most fulfilling thing one can do with one's life". Then it's also "just what people are supposed to do". So which is it? Can it really be both? Or is one idea a consequence of the other?
I disagree with the first affirmation. To me it doesn't seem like the most fulfilling thing I can do with my life. It seems like a worthwhile thing to do, because it's pretty nice to be with someone who you love and loves you back and to have a child with them; and to help "shape" this new person into a decent human being is fascinating. It's also a kind of legacy for many.
But the fact is it's hard to stay together that long, and would you really want to if it's turned into a private hell? It's all relative. I can think of plenty of other worthwhile things to do with my time. I'd be sad to never have kids but I'd still try and find a man I like to be with; I'd also continue to make friends and learn more about relating to others and about the amazing world we live in; I'd continue to try and pursue the things I love to do most, be it art or music or any other activity. I don't think there is much point to my life but since I'm here I might as well live and try to do what makes me happy, while it's possible.
I voted I'm not sure, because I don't care about being married or not, but I thought of voting yes overall. Because why not? Who cares if over 50% of marriages end in divorce? Let's throw caution to the wind and believe in fairy-tales
