Thanks again for the advice. I realize clubs are important, but my college is small and there's not many that I would really fit into.
Computers are sort of my thing and I joined a newly formed off-campus club for comp enthusiasts in my area. The guys in the club seem pretty nice and fun to be around. However, that monthly meeting doesn't cut it for making friends (at least in decent time). Maybe after many months I will be more comfortable with the other members and it will be different. I should talk with the leader about doing more activities than just the monthly meeting, such as LAN parties, etc.
This is why people say that dorm life is key, because you adjust and get comfortable with people much faster when you live with them.
Because of rejection in the past, I have a hard time just calling those guys who I barely know up and ask to go hang out or go to a movie or something. Most of the time that I've done that, even with people who I've cliqued well with, it ruined any chance of friendship. I don't know what it is, maybe I've lost all my social skills having not had any friends since middle school.
Can people here who are comfortable doing the social thing give me advice how to go about turning acquaintances from my monthly club meeting into friends? How can I call them up without annoying them or ruining a possible close friendship?
P.S. I have a part time job but most of my co-workers are assholes and are not people I would want to associate with off the clock.
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