Well, abaya, it seems we are both personalizing our feelings on this issue. You with your story and me, coming from the other side, one who has been labelled a slut for my own conscious actions by people who didn't really know me. I can empathize all too well with these girls, too. I made lots of mistakes, too. Boy, did I ever make mistakes. We can compare notes if you like.
But one thing that puzzles me is - do you feel you were acting like a slut when you passed out and were taken advantage of? Would you consider someone calling you that after your experience something
other than mean-spirited? If not, how does describing girls as such that remind you of yourself when you were younger express concern for them?
People make mistakes, we all do, mistakes of all kinds. But mistakes or errors in judgment of a sexual nature, particularly for women, still carry the weight of a unique stigma it seems. And I find it a little disquieting to see this sort of condemnation directed specifically towards women in a venue such as this one.
And I don't mean to say that you are not forward thinking. I've read your posts and I think it is obvious you are forward thinking. I'm just pointing out what I see as a discrepancy in attitudes towards women, especially within the context of participation on this site. No offense was intended.