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I find as I get older, I compare myself to other women less and less. I'm pretty happy with the way I look overall. If I see a woman that I think is attractive I will appreciate her good looks and leave it at that - I do like to look at pretty women! When I was younger though, while I wouldn't have made any comments to the woman, I might have silently yearned to be blessed with some of her features.
Occasionally I'll hear comments from women similar to the ones you have gotten, sweetpea, but I don't pay them much mind. I just smile and shrug my shoulders. What could I possibly say? I don't think I've ever been told such a thing in a mean-spirited way, though. Obviously the woman in the coffee shop has issues, lol. I try to take it in stride because really, looking the way I do certainly hasn't paid any bills, fed my children or made my life easier in any measurable way. I think Gilda's points about instinctual competitive impulses are valid, but I also think some of it just plain old "the grass is greener" sort of reasoning.
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Most people go through life dreading they'll have a traumatic experience. Freaks were born with their trauma. They've already passed their test in life. They're aristocrats. - Diane Arbus
PESSIMISM, n. A philosophy forced upon the convictions of the observer by the disheartening prevalence of the optimist with his scarecrow hope and his unsightly smile. - Ambrose Bierce
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