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Sweetpea · 12-20-2006, 01:07 PM

Ladies, I'm trying to gain some insight here on the female mind and the topic of comparing oneself to others.

I have always been into fitness, but In the past couple years, I've toned up and now weigh 125 at 5'5".
My way of dress and fitness has caused a backlash amongst the women I know. I was more accepted when I was 10 pounds heavier a few years ago.

I don't dress in extremely revealing clothes, but I do were clothes/jeans that are fitted and the occasional short skirt, I typically wear heels. I wear a little make up and I do my hair, but that's about it.

My sister in law accused me of trying to outshine her when I was at a family function saying "well, don't you look nice, You always make Me look bad don't you?"
Other family members make similar comments "oh, you just had to wear make up." etc.
I was getting coffee and a woman turned to me out of the blue when I asked for extra whip cream on my mocha, glared at me and said "well, that's fine for you to get that isn't it? I bet you don't even count calories" To which I just looked at her dumbfounded, the sheer venom in her voice was shocking.

I personally don't care wether or not someone has sweats on and their hair in a ponytail all the time, or if they are dressed up to the nine's to go to the grocery store. It doesn't matter to me as long as they are happy with themselves.

I don't see why some women find the need to apparently penalize me for taking a little extra time on my appearance. I'm not out to compete with other women.
I excercise and dress the way I do because it makes me feel good about myself, I don't see why how I look has to affect anyone else, let alone why they take it upon themselves to comment on it or be upset about it.

I do sometimes compare myself to other women, but I don't begrudge them for it.

I know that some self esteem for women in our culture is attatched to physical characteristics, the media is partially to blame for this.

But why this culture of comparing? And why get so upset over someone else wearing makeup?
Shouldn't we be bonding together against defining ourselves by our appearance instead of piting ourselves against one another?

please share your insights, experiences or comments.

12-20-2006, 01:07 PM	#1 (permalink)
Sweetpea Fade out Location: in love	"You Make Me Look Bad" Ladies, I'm trying to gain some insight here on the female mind and the topic of comparing oneself to others. I have always been into fitness, but In the past couple years, I've toned up and now weigh 125 at 5'5". My way of dress and fitness has caused a backlash amongst the women I know. I was more accepted when I was 10 pounds heavier a few years ago. I don't dress in extremely revealing clothes, but I do were clothes/jeans that are fitted and the occasional short skirt, I typically wear heels. I wear a little make up and I do my hair, but that's about it. My sister in law accused me of trying to outshine her when I was at a family function saying "well, don't you look nice, You always make Me look bad don't you?" Other family members make similar comments "oh, you just had to wear make up." etc. I was getting coffee and a woman turned to me out of the blue when I asked for extra whip cream on my mocha, glared at me and said "well, that's fine for you to get that isn't it? I bet you don't even count calories" To which I just looked at her dumbfounded, the sheer venom in her voice was shocking. I personally don't care wether or not someone has sweats on and their hair in a ponytail all the time, or if they are dressed up to the nine's to go to the grocery store. It doesn't matter to me as long as they are happy with themselves. I don't see why some women find the need to apparently penalize me for taking a little extra time on my appearance. I'm not out to compete with other women. I excercise and dress the way I do because it makes me feel good about myself, I don't see why how I look has to affect anyone else, let alone why they take it upon themselves to comment on it or be upset about it. I do sometimes compare myself to other women, but I don't begrudge them for it. I know that some self esteem for women in our culture is attatched to physical characteristics, the media is partially to blame for this. But why this culture of comparing? And why get so upset over someone else wearing makeup? Shouldn't we be bonding together against defining ourselves by our appearance instead of piting ourselves against one another? please share your insights, experiences or comments. __________________ Having a Pet Will Change Your Life! Looking for a great pet?! Click Here! "I am the Type of Person Who Can Get Away With A lot, Simply Because I Don't Ask Permission for the Privilege of Being Myself" Last edited by Sweetpea; 12-20-2006 at 01:16 PM..