Sage

I totally agree with the other posts, that kids that age are idiots. However, you do have residual bad feelings about one of the most intimate and enjoyable parts of your body. I dated someone who made me feel down about how I looked in general, and it took a good year into my marriage to really get over that. Healing takes a long time.

Have you ever thought about going to counseling about this? Obviously it's an issue that still bothers you, years later, and is affecting your life on a daily basis (which is never good). Talking to a professional would help a lot in my opnion. Another thing that helped me really realize how beautiful my whole body is was looking at porn- lots and lots of it, not just the "Blonde with big boobs" kind of porn. Seeing two or three hundred vaginas will show you just what kind of variety there is between women.

Personally, my inner labia are two very different legnths- one's short and cute, the other one sticks out from between my outer labia like a tounge. There's times I don't like the way it looks, but my husband always reminds me that really, it doesn't matter at all what it looks like- he loves me for me (just like JS loves you for you) and not for what I look like.

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