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Originally Posted by Jim Kata
I actually was going to show her the link after some substantial replies, but felt fake so I came clean here, and then sent her the link.
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Well, it's pretty brave to send her the link.
To get back to the original problem, I had a good friend at my old job--a guy friend. A married guy friend. There was never anything in any way inappropriate in our relationship, and he and his wife came to my shows, and we went to lunch together on occasion, etc.
After a party at his house where everyone was pretty tipsy, I didn't hear from him for a long time. No biggie, people come, people go if they are busy, etc. It wasn't until later that he finally told me his wife had decided that I had been insufferably rude and horrible to her at the party (which no one else collaborated. And I am so not a rude/mean person, no matter how drunk I have ever gotten. I'm pretty darn nice to start with, and only grown *more* so after drinking). And hello, my husband was at the party too! Anyways, she swore it wasn't jealousy, but I have a very hard time accepting that. But she made him cut off all contact with me whatsoever. The funny thing is I didn't even realize anything was wrong! But he felt bad and told me what was going on. Boy was I shocked out of my ever-lovin' mind! For the record, he didn't see anything related that backed up what she said about me at the party.
Now for all I know, he's given her reason to be suspicious. But the end result is he did what she asked. I don't think it was a "her or me" thing, I'd be surprised if "or me" was any part of that. Just get rid of her. And he did, and I don't have a problem with that. I do however, wish he had been straightforward with me from the start instead of going the high-school mentality route, maybe we could have nipped that in the bud and changed something. Whatever. It was sad, and it bothered me a lot when it happened, but I'm fairly certain I'm better off without that kind of drama-people in my life.