Well, I think Abaya's viewpoint definitely has some worth, but it's not definitive to all women. My ex was the strongest woman I know, but she needed to be led. She was heavily resistant to any leading on her part, because it just wasn't 'right'. Once the next step had been reached, she'd reciprocate just fine, she just wouldn't be the one to break down any barriers. One of the reasons we didn't work out because I didn't like the pressure that put on the guy
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My current gf is exactly the opposite - she's weaker in the relevant aspects of spirit but wants a balanced relationship, because that's what I want as well. Though I may still be the one 'breaking down the barriers', it's paradoxically a mutual thing, with lots of open, bare conversation.
So, I think it's an interesting thought, dominance, especially in the intimate matters.