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Originally Posted by n0nsensical
the leadership theory also applies here and suggests that this is the case because women want men to be strong leaders, not to appear vulnerable or weak in displays of emotions that are perceived to be non-masculine. sure, the standard disclaimer applies, not all women are like that, but I'm willing to bet that for every woman who isn't, there's another one who is and another one who says she isn't but really is.
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Wow. Well, if this is what Toaster was talking about, then... wow.
That's really just a shame, if that's what most women want. I mean sure, I see that theory applying to more traditional or religious societies (including evangelical American Christians; Promise Keepers, anyone?) where women are enculturated with the idea that men should be the head of the household and, correspondingly, should always be the initiators of sex, etc.
But I'd like to think that more and more women, especially those who are educated and/or making their own money, are moving towards a perception of themselves of being as capable (if not more so) of making good decisions as men are, and therefore the leadership is a joint one. I am not saying this is the case for GK and his girlfriend... hell, perhaps his girlfriend is, in fact, one of these women that you describe, who can't seem to make decisions for herself, including regarding her own sexuality. But I certainly hope not.
Why does there have to be a "leader," in bed or otherwise? What's so "wrong" with taking turns and seeing each other as equal initiators and receivers?