n0nsensical

it's just that you seem to be under a different impression of what women generally want from men than some of us. granted my experience is highly limited, but my impression is that women want their men to be the leaders in just about every situation. they seem to not even care if the man is usually wrong, they just want him to lead regardless the outcome. in this case, that brings up the suggestion that the OP needs to be a stronger sexual leader if he wants his girlfriend to be more sexual. likewise, in the "Guys Expressing Emotion" thread, you were wondering why "expressing [unwelcome emotions] is seen as a negative thing." the leadership theory also applies here and suggests that this is the case because women want men to be strong leaders, not to appear vulnerable or weak in displays of emotions that are perceived to be non-masculine. sure, the standard disclaimer applies, not all women are like that, but I'm willing to bet that for every woman who isn't, there's another one who is and another one who says she isn't but really is.