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Originally Posted by Mantus
However women also need leadership. She has to trust you to handle her sexuality.
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WTF?! "Leadership?" Did I accidentally switch to the James Dobson message board? Why wouldn't she be able to handle her own sexuality? I'm not saying your experience with the girl in her 20s wasn't valid, just that I could never have imagined acting in the same way in that situation. Maybe that ONE woman needed leadership, but not all of us are like that.
Actually, the first time my husband and I had sex (it was basically the first time for both of us, long before we were married), I believe he asked me to lead him with where to go with his fingers and tongue, because we were exploring the whole thing together. I asked him to tell me the same. I found it incredibly intimate, humbling, and romantic, and built up my trust in him even more. If he had tried to "take the lead" in that situation, in the way you recommend... well, we wouldn't be married, let alone have had sex.
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