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“You know what? I’ve had enough. Let’s do it.”
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Yes and no. Some girls are mature enough to lead, however it’s not a decision or a choice. She is either attracted to you or not.
That’s not a problem for you though. Just pointing though out to clear up your beliefs.
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Think she liked me ten times more and it was, for once, an awesome feeling.
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She felt comfortable because you would not judge her on her virginity. Comfort is very important in a relationship. However women also need leadership. She has to trust you to handle her sexuality. So you won on one flank and lost the other. You have to prove to her that you are confident enough with virgin sex to lead both of you though the experience.
I know it sounds a bit contradictory (Isn’t confidence supposed to come after the act?) but that’s the way it is…be comfortable with the situation and expression of your sexuality and her own and she’ll pick up on that and trust you.
I’ll give you an example of an experience I had an hopefully it will be insightful and help you understand my beliefs in this.
A girlfriend of mine was in her early 20’s and a virgin. I had to be very dominant with her. She would resist all escalations at first. Tearing her clothes off, pining her down, etc., helped get past that. This is normal, she is nervous and has to trust me to take care of her. Respect her by being non-judgemental and accepting her sexuality. Taking care of her and making her comfortable means taking 100% of all responsibility. At any point, she can make it all my fault…and that’s fine.
Well despite totally leading in the bedroom I tripped on my old habit of being a Gentleman and told her that her “virginity” was still her decision. She looked me right in the eye and said “no, it’s not”. I got it right away. I am 100% responsible for this…and any show of weakness in the moment would have made her doubt my ability to handle this encounter.
Now this happened fast. You guys are on a different level. However take note and learn what you can.