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Originally Posted by abaya
I agree, but at the same time, "getting older and more mature" requires actually experiencing sex in the first place, and realizing that it's not such a huge thing after all that build up. There's no way she's gonna relax about it until she just DOES it and goes through that whole growing-up thing, I think. I agree, though, that reducing pressure is a good approach when anyone is feeling resistant to making a decision... sex included.  |
Which is why I'm so glad I did it when I was young. No time to build it up in my mind to something it could never be. Damn, where's all the smilies?! Who's the smilie admin in this place?
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Originally Posted by GK.12.3
Kelzie, I agree. I guess the old fashioned "norms" have still survived. There is too much pressure when it comes down to sex, yet there is no pressure when it comes down to oral sex. I think young women associate one act with security while the other, with insecurity.
I too think it's a normal part of a relationship and I'm guessing she will only commit such act when she is sure I'm the one for her.
-GK
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True, of course. But dwelling on it will make her think it is too big an act, when really it is just a stepping stone to true intimacy.
Shut up! That is so awesome! Automatically merges posts next to eachother. Hmmm....