I’m a Psych. student and recently took a class on human sexual relationships. Putting the books to the side and entering the real world; I’d like to know your personal views on the following subject.
I know sexual intercourse is considered normal, whether we’re talking about an individualistic or collectivistic society. Men tend to push the importance of such act a lot more than women and it seems that females can last a lot longer until they say, “You know what? I’ve had enough. Let’s do it.” Cheesy, but true.
Right now I’m in a very committed and serious relationship with a chick that is a year younger than me. Both of us are virgins and have never really done anything with anyone, in terms of being intimate – whether it’s oral sex or sex itself.
While some girls have seen my virginity as a downside to being “inexperienced,” other virgins have simply thought that I’m full of it, trying to impress them in order to “get some.” When I told the chick I’m with now that I’ve never been with anyone, I think she liked me ten times more and it was, for once, an awesome feeling.
Due to that, I think she opened up and we’ve been intimate, whether it’s making out or performing oral sex on each other. The love we have for each other is unexplainable and it looks like she really does like me unconditionally, whether she’s kissing me or finishing me off down there.
I brought the topic of sex up numerous times and she doesn’t like to talk about it, at all. I’ve told her, that at the age of 18-19, if we’ve decided to open up to each other, then why not? She follows on to state that “some day it’ll happen,” a phrase which can mean many things.
I don’t want to pressure her and I want our first time to be an amazing experience. Nevertheless, I want intimacy to be intimacy. If we have a lot of it in our life, then why have strings attached when it comes down to other intimate acts?
I keep thinking that she wants to save her virginity for another man, which is understandable in a certain way. Oral sex is reversible, sex isn’t. Nevertheless, she’s been the one telling me that premarital sex is ok and that marriage is just a “piece of paper.”
I’m confused, help a fellow young’sta out
Thanks in advance.
-GK