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Porn and sexual habits don't stay hidden forever. While it's true that she might think it's odd and not want to be involved, she has to be able to accept that you like it and be ok with it. I think, if porn (and porn-swapping) is your kink, then you need to find someone who accepts it, because it isn't going to go away.
Here are the options as I see them:
1. Don't tell her, but keep doing it. Eventually she finds out and gets pissed because you were hiding something from her, maybe ruining the relationship.
2. Don't tell her, and stop doing it. This means sexual repression for you, which is not healthy and leads to resentment.
3. Do tell her, and she flips. You have to find a new girlfriend who will allow it.
4. Do tell her, and she doesn't mind. Woohoo!
While option 3 is scary, it's certainly better than options 1 and 2, and might be necessary on your way to finding a truly compatible mate.
Of course, all this is dependent on your desire to stay with this girl. If you are 17(for example) and just looking for fun and experiences, don't tell her. You won't be with her forever anyway.If you are 25 (for example) and ready to look for real love, you need to tell her because you cannot be with someone who wion't accept your sexual nature for what it is.
Obviously the age numbers are just an example, some people want forever when they are 15 and some never stop enjoying the party life! But you see what I mean.
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