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I think there's a couple things to consider now... first off, when I imagine the stereotypical way things get resolved after a couple has an emotional fight, I think of things like the guy saying he's sorry, showing up with roses, or doing/saying something equally romantic to get things back on track. Now, is this because the guy is always in the wrong? Of course not. Women can be unjustly hurtful, too. It's just expected that the guy approach the girl first. Guys are supposed to suck it up and show the girl he loves her and wants her back.
But how often would this happen the other way, with the girl owning up to the guy? In my previous relationships at least, it seems like an impossibility. Girls are allowed to be emotional and affected to the point where they need to be consoled by the guy. When I've gotten to that point, my girlfriend usually questions my reaction, withdraws a bit, and essentially invalidates the way I feel. I think this also helps explain why I have trouble expressing what I feel immediately, since this is the reaction I've learned to expect.
So this is all well and good for 90% of the time. But there's that 10% that I have trouble dealing with. And maybe this isn't the way it is with most relationships... but it seems like the way it's been for me.
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