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Originally Posted by IT2002
Yes, they will think of it as "If I want to keep my priveledges, I will follow the rules and be good." My point is that kids get dinner and video games as part of the status quo. I am not equating the two, they are not equal. You do however reserve the right to send them to bed without dinner if they are acting out(especially at the dinner table). If a child isn't bad and isn't especially good, he still gets the TV/video games. It's not a reward, it's a priveledge, per your rules. A reward could be buying a new game or DVD or something.
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That's the second time you've equated dinner with tv and video games. If you send your child to bed without dinner, you've committed an act of child abuse and the authorities should be notified. If you send your child to bed without TV or video games, you're probably a good parent, and the authorities should not be notified (unless they have some sort of trophy or award, in which case they should be notified immediatally).
Also, do you understand that something can be both a reward and a priveledge? Fro example, I was rewarded for excellent grades with my father's hand-me-down Ford Tempo when I turned 17. It was both reward and priveledge.
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Originally Posted by IT2002
Is a Driver's License a reward? Of course not. It's a priveledge. It is part of the status quo package. If you meet certain minimal conditions, you get a license. It is not a reward for special behavior.
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The question isn't "is a driver's license a reward", but "can a drivers license be a reward?". It can, in fact, be a reward for studying and practicing so that you do well on your test. Also, the term "special behavior" is quite relative. How would this behavior be special? Is it out of the ordinary? If that's the case, then why has Britney Spears been rewarded with millions of dollars for performing garbage for years?