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Originally Posted by willravel
The thing is: anything you make in to a reward will be, after a time, galvanized as a reward in the mind of the child. TV or video games can be used as a reward, BUT it's very important that while this is used as a reward, the parent also helps the child understand that too much TV or videogames can be destructive. If these values aren't instilled, when this child is no longer under the watchful eye and tutelage of his or her parents, they will gorge on TV and video games like a kid at a candy store. It's a matter of combining the understanding of real world consequences of TV and video games with impulse control.
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I'm not arguing that point at all. That's part of parenting. But to allow a misbehaving child to have the perks regardless of what they do, they also feel 'entitled', even when misbehaving and do not know consequence. Talking, reasoning is all well and good but it's choices and consequence they remember and trying to merely 'reason' while still allowing priviledges(and anything in need of control is a privilege, whether it's soda or gameboy) doesn't teach them a thing except how to get to level 14 while Mommy and Daddy 'discuss' it with them.
In one ear, out the other....part of learning 'values' is learning what happens when the good choices are made and what will result when the bad ones are.