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Originally Posted by abaya
My main issue here was just with people saying that they would never marry someone with a history like that, even if she had been tested for STDs (as if a history, in itself, made somebody evil and immoral)... while at the same time perhaps supporting the very same industry in their own personal lives. It just didn't make logical sense to me. Morals and ethics are not the same thing.
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I don't see the inconsistency. The people we find attractive for long-term romantic relationships are often qualitatively different from those that we find attractive for short-term sexual relationships (whether the relationship is real or fantasy via pornography). It seems reasonable to me that someone could be attracted to promiscuous sexuality in a short-term partner, but not be interested in that same promiscuity in a long-term partner.
Regarding sexual histories: Individuals looking for long-term partners must have some criteria they use to select their partners. I would expect these criteria to be more selective in long-term relationships than in short-term relationships. There area more costs involved in making the wrong decision regarding a long-term partner. Across a variety of domains, the best predictor of future behavior is past behavior. I would guess that a promiscuous sexual history predicts infidelity better than many other relationship variables. If I had the time, I might check existing empirical research.