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I think the most pressing issue, the issue randygurl came here with, is the matter of how she feels about this now and how she is speculating she will feel in the future. Any opinions about the morality or legality of it are kind of irrelevant. Not the point.
And speaking just for myself. I couldn't imagine having something like this in my past and not telling a long-term committed partner about it. I don't consider that a choice. I would feel dishonest. I suspect randygurl feels at least somewhat this way, too.
And one more thing, I was never a prostitute nor a stripper or porn star, but I do have sexual adventures in my past that might strike some people as unacceptable. But in both of my long-term relationships with men I have always been honest about my past and never been rejected for it. Someone who truly loves you will understand, accept and continue loving you. Like so many people have said before, the real issue is how YOU will be able to accept and rationalize a decision to go through with it. It seems to me though, that maybe you had your mind made up before you came here.
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